Are we Nurturing Human Infants into unemotional Robots????

Aren’t we encountering with a typical society which hasn’t changed in terms of being socialized?   

A society which is creating disinterested,   self-centred, egoistic individuals with "Let it be attitude "

Both parents are busy like west,in achieving their career threshold.Children are being groomed by themselves.

Its mere matter of SERENDIPITY-what type of citizen will society achieve in future. 
Mom is away & maid has taken her place. Child is learning what maid feels is right.  From their childhood children learn bossing over elders (servant). Is this an age to teach child the distinction of classes?

We wanted literate mother with hypothesis that an Educated lady Educates home. So, now we need to educate Maids not Mothers. Is today's mom there to educate her child or she is busy earning name, money, fame & identity? Does she have time to see to child’s emotional and little requirements?

Love or "Mamta" what we call is more superficial. It is being discussed in Kitty parties & office pantry. Girls read books on happy parenting... but not see back into past, to find what their moms did.  
Child is being rushed to a psychiatrist to give him Kangaroo Therapy or the Hug Therapy to give him emotional security but Mom won't hug him right with her own arms. Aren't we crazy?
Most parent count on money they have spent on their child but not time. Child has most of toys but no one to play with them.
Would be there an emotional bonding between parents and child???

Children sit idle killing their time in front of television, watching daily soap operas which portray relations based mainly on greed for Money,strive for Power & Sex. No logic behind it, no reality of life.
What "Sanskars" are we providing?
Making the situation worse the reality shows are adding to the expectations from child. More & more competition has overburdened the child’s mind. Most parents want their child to be at top as ALL-ROUNDER , a SUPER HUMAN! What about average children? Aren’t their little achievements over shadowed by our over demanding nature?

On education front nothing useful is being taught. Most youngsters find it embarrassing, when they have to use there mother tongue- "THE MATRIBHASHA". It’s fashion to speak broken Hindi to show you are modern & literate. Isn’t it shameful for us? 
Children busy cramming lesson from "Modern passbooks" which we often call the study material or a "Refresher"! 

Is this an education which is required to create a responsible citizen?
Most of us are merely literate. We aren't including much, what we have read into our lives or attitude. Why can’t we educate our youngsters & ourselves?

Weren’t we happy with our Indian hierarchial set-up of society & type of work division,amongst sexes? Where parents were rearing & nurturing their child very nicely.With little earning in terms of money & more in terms of emotions!

Where is that WE FEELING?For whom, are we putting,our efforts?What type of NEW generation, is ought to be there?What will we do with money? Only,we can gather a crowd around ourselves,on which we can never rely.

Is Career,Academics & Economic achievements are above all Social living?
WAS THIS INDIAN CULTURE? A culture which has always amused & attracted the attention of WEST.. Why are we copying losers of west...?

WAS THIS THE AIM OF LIBERALIZATION OF WOMEN?   

IS THIS A CREATION OF NEW WORLD or DISINTEGRATION OF "FAMILY"-THE BASIC UNIT OF SOCIETY???

Think aren’t we ourselves creating a world without emotions?
Are we not turning HUMAN INFANTS into an unemotional ROBOT with high output?

We have been best on emotional front & should be so for eras to come..!

"Pushpa ki Chaah"

 

One of most inspiring poem of our curriculum.

"Khag! Udate Rahna Jeevan bhar"

Toofano ki oar ghuma do nij Patwaar!

Nice poem- To bring a change we all must have similar feelings!

Shakti aur KShama by Ramdhari Singh "Dinkar"

Focus on Right MEANS not BIG AIMS!

The day Anna ji civil society was included to discuss Janlokpal bill.  All of us screamed-

Congratulations-People power WINS!

NOW-It's Our responsibility to SUSTAIN the lamp of patriotic feeling lit by Anna Hazareji in our hearts!

Time is to Focus on Right MEANS not BIG AIMS! Need of hour is to bring a SOCIAL CHANGE.To Fight against corruption we all must start from home,neighbourhood & most from our HEARTS. Boycotting Elections can't be solution to anything. Adult Franchise is our duty as well as right.If really want to boycott, then Disregard & Boycott those-who gathered Wealth by elicit means! We must start Respecting & Recognizing those people: who are rich in MORALS & VIRTUES! Time has come to regenerate faith in each & every heart that FAME COMES WITH MORALS & HUMANITY not by WEALTH! As soon as we be able to redefine the path of recognition & FAME  as Qualities, virtues, morals,fair dealings & Sound character. Most corrupt too; won't run after gathering money. All do elicit things, to get social recognition. If we treat them as Villain no one would want to be rich by elicit means! HOPE WE ALL WILL KEEP THIS NATIONAL MOVEMENT ALIVE in our thoughts, deeds & Behaviour! Then only we may combat Corruption-the social evil!

Hum-Tum Chalein Toh Hindustan Chale!(JAN LOKPAL)

Falak Pakad Ke Uthein Aur Hawa Pakad Ke Chalein
Hum Chalein Toh Hindustan Chale...
Lagaaye Haath Ke Suraj Subaha Nikala Kare,
Hatheliyon Mein Bhare Dhup Aur Ujaala Karein...

Hum-Tum Chalein Toh Hindustan Chale, 

Aao aaj Jan LokPal ki mashal lekar chalein.
Sang sang chalien toh log kya bhagwaan bhi jhukein!
Aao phir mange Swaraj aur bhrashtachaar mukt sarkar
Aaj phir Azad Hindustaan ka Sapna sakaar karein 

Hum-Tum Chalein Toh Hindustan Chale!!!

 

Trust..The Life Time INSURANCE...

Once,A little girl and her father were walking on beach. 

The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t slip into the sea.”

The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."

                                              "What’s the difference?" Asked the puzzled father…

"There’s a big difference," replied the little girl.

"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go.

But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."

  In any relationship,The essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. 

So,Always hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours … 

Avoid your ego.. Go ahead & hold tight your loved ones hand.
This would be better way to keep them away from crisis situations!

The Club-99! Are you it's member?Not yet- time to find the key to happiness!

There lived a King who, despite his luxurious lifestyle, was neither happy nor content.

Once the King came upon a servant who was singing happily while he worked. This fascinated the King. Why was he, the Supreme Ruler of the Land, unhappy and gloomy, while a lowly servant had so much joy? 

The King asked the servant, "Why are you so happy?" 

Man replied, "Your Majesty, I am nothing but a servant. My family and I don’t need too much! – just a roof over our heads and warm food to fill our tummies." 

The king was not satisfied with that reply, he sought the advice of his most trusted advisor.

After hearing the King’s woes and the servant’s story, the advisor said, "Your Majesty, I believe that the servant has not been made part of The 99 Club." 

"The 99 Club? And what exactly is that?" 

Advisor replied, "Your Majesty, to truly know what The 99 Club is, place 99 Gold coins in a bag and leave it at this servant’s doorstep." 

So did the king do...

When the servant saw the bag, he took it into his house. He opened the bag, he let out a great shout of joy…  

So many gold coins!  

He began to count them. After several counts, he was at last convinced that there were 99 coins. He wondered, "What could've happened to that last gold coin? Surely, no one would leave 99 coins!" He looked everywhere he could, but that final coin was elusive. 

Finally, exhausted, he decided that he was going to have to work harder than ever to earn that gold coin and complete his collection.

From that day, the servant’s life was changed. He was overworked, horribly grumpy, and castigated his family for not helping him make that 100th gold coin. He stopped singing while he worked.

Witnessing this drastic transformation, the King was again puzzled. 

He sought his advisor’s help.

The advisor said, "Your Majesty, the servant has now officially joined The 99 Club." 

He continued, "The 99 Club is a name given to those people who have enough to be happy but are never content, because they're always yearning and striving for that extra 1 telling to themselves: "Let me get that one final thing and then I will be happy for life."

We can be happy, even with very little in our lives, but the minute we're given something bigger and better, we want even more! We lose our sleep, our happiness, we hurt the people around us, all these as a price for our growing needs and desires.
That’s what is called joining The 99 Club!

Hope you haven't joined the CLUB 99 yet!

and unknowingly if you have- withdraw it's  membership before its too late! 

This is what is the key to Happiness...

Discard negativity-Provide good programmes to viewers..They would like it!

These days Programmes on television use negative approach to attract viewers & to earn TRP's. These channel are able to grab viewers attention but how many such programme can these hold the attracted audience, for long time.? We must say-the so called reality shows, shows full of sensationalism n vulgarity.. which are far away from humanity & intellect, How many of these can leave a long lasting impression on our minds?

Show full of pump n show.

It's human tendency to explore more & to be curios about things which they are restrained from. This is what we call the Reference group.






Off course Negativity attracts, creates curiosity.. but once the person is allowed to explore the truth n real picture about the same thing .. this curiosity disappears. Now there comes new reference group. This race keeps on going.

Veena Malik full of sensationalism at Big Boss

Negative Dolly at Big Boss

 

I don't say restrain viewers from bad things.. but provide them scope to find enough good things on T.V.

Attraction by negative approach is like Fads n fashion.. they change every second day.

Positive approach may be slow but it's steadiness & long lasting impression would always WIN the RACE.

Let them explore the world themselves but make them Aware of the difference between Good n Bad.

If we provide 90% good to viewers at-least 30% would automatically get inculcated in their personality.

Let them develop taste for more worthy shows.

Some shows may be too bitter to view because of it's bitter truth content. But this is what India should have through Journalism. Need is to develop taste of audience for real shows. 
Let them see more of debate shows than those  related to Bollywood Gossips. Let them learn dignified behaviour not "munni badnam."  Repeat knowledge bearing news.  
Don't let people live in fantasies that too the vulgar one.. 
Don't let people sleep any more. Provide them with entertainment but don't estimate their I.Q. level is too low.


People would learn to relish what they are served on television. Indian viewers are too adaptive. Climbing mountains is a hard job but that doesn't mean all should start drowning or  flowing with down falling streams... Put efforts to awaken inner self. Put efforts on humanistic approaches.

Jasuben Jayantilal ki joint family-A

family show

Reinoculate the faith in virtues of life-the Honesty,Humanity, Truthfulness, Sound character & Simplicity.Make them feel that these virtues still bear Grace In Society n can win fame n recognition.
Media frames our mind set.  

Arnab Goswami-Fearless  journalist is admired for his impartial News.

Please don't let full of stupidity, without-intellect  programmes win TRP's just by watching such programmes, out of curiosity. Appreciate good deed of people around, give recognition to those who are contributing  something to this world..Don't recognise those who are just rich in terms of Wealth.

Give recognition to wisdom, to  knowledge and to Humanity! 
RECOGNIZE THOSE WHO ARE RICH IN VIRTUES,CHARACTER or INTELLECT.

Set a trend that FAME is matter of our good contribution to the society & it can't be earned just by adding lot of money in our accounts. 
Hope earth would be a better place to live in.!

Relish-"Til ke Laddoo..On Makar Sankranti- Why in winters only?"

Til ke laddoo

Til or Sesame seeds, since eras, North India's winter festivals are associated with the Gajak or Tilpatti or Til ke Laddo! Everyone used to consume Til & Gud in one form or the other during the winter season. 

Have you ever thought why our ancestors made such Til & Jaggery(Gud) combination foods in WINTERS?

May be because there is crop of til & sugarcane during these months.

If we further investigate the reason why GOD gifted TIL to man..and why in this period of year only?

We reach to a more satisfying & amazing answer.. 

Through the investigation of nutritive value we find that Sesame seeds(TIL)are richest source of iron & Jaggery(GUD) a high energy food which is also rich in dietary iron.

Both of these foods are rich source of iron..! In fact Til is richest source of iron in Indian vegetarian foods..

Why Iron rich food in winters??

Studies reveal that During winters our BMR or basal metabolic rate is reduced. 

What is BMR?-Is it merely a figure that we achieve during the full body analysis, on an electronic machine? or a figure on which your dietician puts a circle- saying you need to work-out harder to improve it..  

But is not that insignifant. BMR is associated with the body's basic functions.. It's simplest guideline, for a nutritionist to estimate, that what type of body response will be, during the full session. By definition BMR or BASAL METABOLIC RATE is the minimum amount of energy required to sustain our life through involuntary activities in post absorptive state. 

What happens if BMR gets reduced? If BMR gets reduced the amount of energy that we consume, more of it, gets converted into body's fat deposits rather than being utilized to sustain our normal healthy body functions.This will make us put on weight...!

Then, Why is BMR reduced? As body sees a emergency situation, arising during the cold months.. Brain advises body to store more fat for future use in crisis. As the invertebrates do during Hibernation. Secondly,Our body needs to do more effort to maintain the body temperature.. In this effort mind suggests, the body to accumulated the subcutanious Fat or we may say more of adipose tissue.. So,the body  may get a protective covering of natural fat blanket to protect us from cold..And during crisis this tissue could be broken down to fulfil energy requirement also.

Now what's the role of HIGH IRON & HIGH ENERGY foods?

If we believe in Indian food fads of "TAASIR" of foods then obviously TIL & GUD come in "warm foods" category .What we generally say "GARAM-TAASIR" in our day to day language.

Otherwise also during the low BMR days, our pulse rate & pumping of heart blood volume too gets lowered down, due to normal body feedback response. I'm not just saying this but studies reveal this fact.
When the rate of blood circulation gets reduced, the rate of oxygen supply to various parts of body too gets affected, that's a overt fact.

To overcome this situation body needs to multiply more of RBC's or the red blood cells. 

Here come's the answer-To produce more RBC's which will have high haemoglobin(Haem is form of iron compound in Haemoglobin) which could carry more oxygen through the blood stream;

The body's need for energy & Iron(Haem) is elevated. And to acquire these two, there is need for humans to add Iron & Energy rich foods in their diet during winter months.

After analysing all  this reason behind the Til-patti or the Til ke Laddo.

Don't you too feel that our ancestors were genius..?

They used scientific foods in their day to day life?

Just there was a little difference in presentation of ideas. They utilised their knowledge well, but they didn't gave such reasoning.They might have thought people won't understand or they thought masses may not follow the idea, if it is not associated with some custom. So, they combined each required food with festivals.

Like they did with TIL & JAGGERY by associating with MAKAR SANKRANTI..!

Not only Til & Gud but "Moong ki dal ki pakodi's" on Makar Sankranti too have some logic behind it which I will try to reveal in my next article.. 

Is it Love or Lust ? Don't redefine the two words...

Love is unconditional

Most discussed topic in life- Love! Majority of soap operas revolve around it. Here, love starts at first sight or with the girl just tripping down, into the arms of hero. This most demanded & passionate love creates lot of tension, competition, greed, revenge and even crime. This very cherishing feeling of  love in such serials, expires as soon as a third person steps into the couple’s life. The big dream castle of so-called love collapses with a little tremor of distrust or infatuation created for someone else.

In such operas-The love is being portrayed as ultimate lust for opposite sex. It’s matter of egoist achievement. 

It’s similar to Ravan’s love for Sitaji or Suparankha’s desire for Shri Ram. 
Our mythology termed this as “Rakshas Pravriti”

or in the modern era we may call it –“Animal Instinct”!

Love means much more.. It can not be "id" only!

Need to review our Indian ideology-The sequence of Purusharthas. 

“Ab toh songs mein bhi Ishq 'Ibadat' ki jagah 'kamina' hone laga hai.. Kya yehi humari sabhyata hai?”

 It’s time to judge our feeling, on our own.

Where are we heading?Aren’t we heading towards our degeneration?Our cultural degradation?

Don’t redefine LOVE as LUST. .These two are anonymous..

Love is worship!

“Pyar upaasana hai—Vaasana nahi..”

Ishwar Bhakti, Aastha, Vatsalaya, Desh prem, Karuna are part of the word love only. Why not projecting them to world?

Love is as sacred as worship.. It’s pure.. It can’t be bound in boundaries of adjectives. It can’t be created nor destroyed. Motives can never be its foundation. Situations change people come & go in life. We love something and if it goes; we feel down & hurt. Soon, we learn to let it go, we stop thinking of it, finding it wasn’t meant to be ours. But how can somebody hurt back?

How people take revenge for not achieving, what they want in love? No one in this  world is bound to feel the way you think he or she should.

People are trying to snatch love...committing Crimes to achieve it! Kidnapping for love.. Captive life can never be pleasure for anybody.. Bandhano main bandh ke pyaar ka vriksh kaise vikasit hoga? Murder for love? or Is it murder of love & humanity!

How can love be CAUSE of destructive activity?  Isn’t it shameful to define our Lust or Id  as love?

Are we animals or human beings?

Love pyramid

Since eras, Love has been a beautiful feeling, which enhances our personality.Which binds humans like a pearls in a string.. Which encourage to sacrifice 'self' for a single smile of loved one.

Then why does EGO overlap our so SACRED feeling of life-"love"?

What’s so insulting in loosing for someone, whom you love…

Think who the winner is? It’s your love only.. Then, what makes you so impatient & egoistic?

Does proximity is the end which we seek in love?

Off course we want to be near to our choice but if not so…

Here comes the role of wisdom.. Say if we hurt whom we love but whom we couldn't acquire..

Who will feel the aftermath? Who is the biggest victim? Who is being hurt..?

It’s WE ourselves. Isn’t it?

This means to be victorious in love-appeasement of our loved one is most important. His/her freedom is most important.

To be a nice human being we must express love in its other forms too.. Need to decentralize our id into creative 'likes & love for other things-God, Parents, Work, Aims, Motherland, Humanity, Nature anything that is important in our lives..'

Stop before it’s too late. Time to think what we are achieving by our ids..? 

Try to feel the satisfaction, which we get, when without selfish motive- we give, give & give to see a flash of smile on someone’s face. The mere shine in the other one’s eyes is more than a life’s treasure…

The best portion of a man’s life, is, his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and unintentional love... 

This was an article which I wrote when I came across number of NEWS regarding increasing crimes related to what is called  "Crime of Passion".
Hope my lines will not be used take out any Inferences regarding my personal life....

Although above article reflects my ideology but it doesn't include any personal-life experience.

“Emergency Vs Urgency”

Most of the medico-legal cases arise in the hospital settings when one fails to differentiate between emergency and urgency. 

Emergency- is an emergent condition requiring immediate steps and remedies. 

On the other hand, Urgency requires medical attention but one can wait for few hours. 

Routine care the third category can be handled under routine schedule of appointments.

It is the duty of every doctor to triage their patients on routine/urgent/emergent cases. One of the formulae which can be used is the formula of "first time, unusual, unexplained". Any symptom or sign appearing for the first time in life or/and is unusual or/and cannot be explained needs immediate attention. For example after resting if you are feeling tired you need consult or when you have headache for the first in life, you need consult. One should also be aware of life-threatening emergency situations.

A few situations are:  

• Respiratory rate > 35 per minute
• Inability to speak a sentence along with breathlessness.
• Suspected heart attack chest pain (diffuse pain lasting > 30 sec in the center of the chest)
• High fever with no sweating
• Altered consciousness
• Inability to move a limb, 
• Difficulty in speech, 
• facial irregularity
• Any bleeding in pregnancy
• Blood in the sputum or vomiting
• First onset of seizures. 
• Undefined low fever for more than three day should not be ignored.                           

Most of us over look meagre signs of ailment or natural Alarms of body .. What Doctor & others will think of us, if we rush to hospital for our slight or meagre ailments,Stops most of us. Majority of time.. me too do the same! This may have serious Health hazards.. We need to be more Health conscious..

Never QUIT.. Life has a distinct role for everyone...Wait for your turn..

Bamboo flower that appears after 48yrs

One day I decided to quit…I quit my work, my relationships, my spirituality, everything.

I wanted to quit my life... 

God called me to have a last talk..

I went to the forest to have one last talk with God. 

"God", "Can you give me one good reason not to quit? I said.  

He said-"Look around",  "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?" 

"Yes", I replied but why?
God continued..
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. I was upset But I did not quit on the bamboo. 

In the second year the fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. It created despair.. But I did not quit on the bamboo. "In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I was Determined I would not quit. The same in year fourth …

then in the fifth year, a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. 

Compared to the fern, it was seemingly small and insignificant.

But just six months later, the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.  
"I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots? I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. "Don’t compare yourself to others." 

"The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come", God said to me.

"You will rise high" 

"How high should I rise?" I asked.

"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked. 

"As high as it can?" I said. 

"Yes." He said,"Give me glory by rising as high as you can." 

I left the forest & the desire to QUIT, realizing that God will never give up on me. And He will never give up on you too.   

Never regret a day in your life.

Good days give you happiness; Bad days give you experiences; both are essential to life.

Never Quit.. Life has something in it's store for you too..

Wait till you get a lead role, in this God's Drama called LIFE!!!

Beautiful Bamboo flower the result of it's 48 years of patience & self-sustaining nature!! We too have something beautiful, in nature's store for us.. Wait till time comes...

 

"Shanka" (Fear about new beginning)

Story behind my Name!!

Story behind my Name!

Many have wondered, what really my name means? Which caste I belong to? As kid I used to answer 'Humanity is my caste'.. Many thought I belonged to some Maharastrian, Bengali or SC/ST family.
I never bothered whatever they assumed..

Now I feel there is a need to unveil the motive behind my Name.

“Shuchita” means “Pavitrata”(Chastity); “Vatsal” means “Prem karnewala” as we use “Bhaktvatsal” for Bhagwanji.

i.e. “Shuchita Vatsal” means “Pavitrata se prem karnewali”

Vatsal is not my surname. Actually, my parents had a ideology, similar to that of Shri. Jaiprakash  Narain. They wanted that when I grow up, I must make, my own place in this World, not because of my surname, but as a HUMAN BEING, as an INDIVIDUAL!  They wanted me to be a good Indian & not merely a caste representative.

Story started long before my birth, when my grand parents took an oath similar to Arya Samaj. They where not AryaSamajis but were real ideologist. True Sanatani & devoted Swayam Sevaks. They adopted the best from Arya samaj too i.e. Education for all & the marriage ideals. My grandparents were influenced by revolutionary nation building ideology of Rashtriya Swayam Sevak Sangh. 
'Namste Sada Vatsale Matribhoomi..'
In an effort to contribute to Bharat mata's vaibhavshali garimamayi sanatan Sanskriti.
They believed social integration & irradiation of discrepancies in the society was of utmost importance. 

They tried to break the barriers of caste system from the path of HUMANITY. 
They believed person must be judged on the basis of their capabilities, qualities and the amount of goodness.

So, my family witnessed many INTER CASTE ARRANGED MARRIAGES! 
In selection of life partner criteria was never the GOTRA but GOODNESS.

Our family can be called an example of little INDIA- people from different castes, cultures, linguistic & geographic regions i.e. Brahmins(Tiwari,Bhardwaj,Misra,Jha),Bengali Brahmin(Chatterjee), Agrawals (Singhal,Govil,Garg,Mittal,Bansal,Goel, Gangal),Punjabis(Rai & Sharma),Bhumihar Brahmin(Thakur/Misr), Rajasthani Chaudhary, Jains, Sikhs,South Indian, Oriya, Maharastrain & many more..constitute our unique family.
First inter-caste arranged marriage of our family occurred in year 1954. Agrawal bride & U.P. Brahmin Tiwari Groom. This was one of the revolutionary steps of that era. It faced social sanctions & boycotts. 
But soon, those who stood against this marriage, joined the same path by getting their son married to a Sikh girl..

My parent too followed the foot prints of elders. 
30 years back two totally different communities came on same platform to constitute a Happy Family Picture!

My Mom belongs to a Agrawal/Bania family of U.P. & Papa from a Choudhary/Jat family of Rajasthan.

My maternal family was a family which even avoided onion in kitchen, Bahus were preferably clad in traditional saaris or may be jeans now, language had the Brij bhasha type touch now U.P. shudhh hindi touch.-Khayiyega, Kahiyega!

My Papa belonged to the feudal caste of Rajasthan-The Jats. Who’s mere name draws a picture of rigid, adamant and backward warrior caste. Full form of which is often called as Jat- ‘Just Avoid Them’.

But my paternal family is quite different from Jat traits. It’s a family of polite, literate professionals. Mostly doctors. Off course,the roots lie in a conservative village with a touch of the Zamindari system, with ancestral lands,eating garlic in most recipes, ladies wearing Ghagra-loogari, following "Purdah system"-even today mom does Ghoonghat there. She has learnt Marwadi too.

The love in heart helps you adapt to any situation, it makes you learn anything that is part of beloved's life.

Both families avoided the rigidity of their caste traits .i.e. Maternal Agrawal family is no more a classic example of miser, business class, dowry seeker, fearful people as Bania are thought to be.Rather they are in Defence as warriors. Intellects in planning commission as economic advisor,So on.

My paternal family too,is no more conservative, rigid, feudal & agritarian as of classic Jats. It’s a family of polite, well mannered professional individuals.

The Inter-caste marriage didn’t make the communities loose their identity but made their generation more efficient. Intermingling of cultures gave them better exposure.

Both families contributed to my personality. I’m a Hybrid. I’m now able to adjust from a very conservative village atmosphere where I may need to put Ghooghat to a very cosmopolitan atmosphere of high class rich literate people!From Marwadi to U.P. anywhere in India.

Off-course I MISS SOME TRAITS OF JATS even MY PAPA & family does. We are Pure vegetarian, flexible and polite. No one even from our extended family has any criminal or 'dadagiri' record.

Scientifically also, Inter-caste marriage avoids the Cognitive/birth defects due to mutations in DNA structure. It promotes the mental/cognitive learning of hybrid. Whereas, in a closed community, when people of same caste get married, there are higher chances of such defects & mental retardation of  the off-springs.

Hybrids are more efficient, So Am I.
 I have been perpetuating two cultures.

Why there is still a BIG TABOO ON INTERCASTE MARRIAGE?

Are we afraid of loosing caste identity?

Don't fear GOOD cultural TRAITS will never disappear!
 Avoid Surnames..Judge people individually!! 
We may contribute in reducing casteism...

We may help in national integration.
The termite which was once again tilled out of ground in 90’s by Mandel Commission must be killed now.. Otherwise Nation will be rowed down into pieces.

Positive Approach too grabs Attention.. Try one.

Commercial advertisements whether it’s of deo-spray, motor-cycle, chocolate, refrigerator, washing machine, T.V. or any other. Most of them have women, they are portraying the lust and sensational part of life.

What could be the reason of females in ads of vest, shaving cream or S.blades!

Are women the target population for their products? They say it attracts consumers.

Do we really think that Indian costomers are so ill cultured and insensitive that nothing less than Lust & temptation would make them understand the utility of any Product?

Are we so unsocialised like animals that Ids & uncontrolled instincts can only grab our attention? Does the word Sexy bears utmost importance in one’s life…? Sincerely it’s not important for most Indians.

It’s kept on third place when we talk about Purushartha's proposed by Indian ideology. 

Dharma & Artha come before it i.e. One’s duties towards God, society, family & work place comes first then there is any place for own pleasures & id. So, why are we trying to change its sequence?

Let’s reshuffle the old pages of commercial ads....

Ads which have, really set a long lasting impression on our mind, are those, which were much more CLEAN and SIMPLE.

May it be Amul’s –‘Utterly butterly delicious”

The twinkling eyes of Dhara eidible oil kid..Calling—“JALEBI”

Lays ad boy saying- “My mom says I shouldn’t talk to strangers! Get your own pack..!”

Ponds ad with simple elegant lady in aeroplane asking-“Shayad aap meri seat par hain”

 

Complan- I’m a Complan boy..”

or Handiplast Girl slipping on a pot in garden to hurt herself.. Mom putting Handiplast..

Vicks—baby elephant with red tusk saying “chhoti Vicks ki dibbi mere liye!”

SOME OF TODAY'S COMMERCIAL ADS TOO SHOW THAT INTELLECT REALLY CATCHES ATTENTION…

We may recall few ads-

 

Pepsodent- Papa with pappu, 

  

Squirrel ad of Kit-Kat- Have break!Zindagi shayad aapko kuchh khaas dikha de..

 

Tata Sky series with Amir Khan as dhoodhwala, purchaser,saloon or pitaji
Tata Sky - Aamir Khan Sardar Ad: http://youtu.be/psxQFBtBOj8 via @youtube

 

Idea Series –What an idea sir ji .. Bhasha, Save paper n trees: Phone exchange or any of that series.

Ceat Byke tyre has also used the positive approach to show the grip of tyre on road & It helps to prevent accident even when others don’t follow traffic rule. Says-“They are many such idiots on road”

Mahindra Stallio motor cycle ad where Amir replies question of youngster that “Kya yeh toofan se topi lati hai.?. “New bike huh! Plane se race lagayegi?'”

Amir Khan says, “Itni jaldi nahi hay yaar. Waise bhi ghar hi jana hay. Ma intezaar kar rahi hai” Other way could have been boasting ads of bikes for their speed, stunt and style..

But even a message conveyor ad for safe driving can promote a brand! Even a discussion between son & father attracts us.

It’s time to HAVE A POSITIVE APPROACH, TO GRAB ATTENTION OF VIEWERS!

Live Life to fullest-God knows, what next moment, would unfold for us...

Whenever I see a butterfly..

My faith that we must try to live every moment of life to fullest, becomes deeper.. 

The Butterfly,who is busy wandering on a flower, enjoying its nectar & fragrance..who is busy adding to colours & aesthetics to world..Seems so contented & happy with present.. That not even a single thought dwindles her faith towards life..

If she would have ever thought of the future.. Will she have been so happy?

No, Not at all. 

Then,the fear of 'end of life' coming nearer & nearer would have taken all her Happiness. 

Fear of losing something, fear that tomorrow will the world be same for us.. 

Always entangles us so much that we forget to live the present.. We are busy planning for years,when even the next moment of life is so unpredictable..God know will we be alive next moment or not.. 

But still man spoils all the pleasure of present.. He frowns, he quarrels, he yells, because he is unable to plan for future..

He is busy putting foundation for the future high castles. And in this struggle for unknown future he over-look most beautiful times of present day.. don't miss such little moments of everyday life which make us smile..

Happy moments of present would be good memories of past, some day..!

We must create a beautiful picture of present. So we may frame it some day & put it on the wall.