Tuesday, 31 May 2011

Are we Nurturing Human Infants into unemotional Robots????

Aren’t we encountering with a typical society which hasn’t changed in terms of being socialized?   
A society which is creating disinterested,   self-centred, egoistic individuals with "Let it be attitude "
Both parents are busy like west,in achieving their career threshold.Children are being groomed by themselves.
Its mere matter of SERENDIPITY-what type of citizen will society achieve in future
Mom is away & maid has taken her place. Child is learning what maid feels is right.  From their childhood children learn bossing over elders (servant). Is this an age to teach child the distinction of classes?
We wanted literate mother with hypothesis that an Educated lady Educates home. So, now we need to educate Maids not Mothers. Is today's mom there to educate her child or she is busy earning name, money, fame & identity? Does she have time to see to child’s emotional and little requirements?
Love or "Mamta" what we call is more superficial. It is being discussed in Kitty parties & office pantry. Girls read books on happy parenting... but not see back into past, to find what their moms did.  
Child is being rushed to a psychiatrist to give him Kangaroo Therapy or the Hug Therapy to give him emotional security but Mom won't hug him right with her own arms. Aren't we mad??
Most parent count on money they have spent on their child but not time. Child has most of toys but no one to play with them.
Would be there an emotional bonding between parents and child???

Children sit idle killing their time in front of television, watching daily soap operas which portray relations based mainly on greed for Money,strive for Power & Sex. No logic behind it, no reality of life.
What "Sanskars" are we providing?

Making the situation worse the reality shows are adding to the expectations from child. More & more competition has overburdened the child’s mind. Most parents want their child to be at top as ALL-ROUNDER , a SUPER HUMAN! What about average children? Aren’t their little achievements over shadowed by our over demanding nature?
On education front nothing useful is being taught. Most youngsters find it embarrassing, when they have to use there mother tongue- "THE MATRIBHASHA". It’s fashion to speak broken Hindi to show you are modern & literate. Isn’t it shameful for us? 
Children busy cramming lesson from "Modern passbooks" which we often call the study material or a "Refresher"! 
Is this an education which is required to create a responsible citizen?
Most of us are merely literate. We aren't including much, what we have read into our lives or attitude. Why can’t we educate our youngsters & ourselves?
Weren’t we happy with our Indian hierarchial set-up of society & type of work division,amongst sexes? Where parents were rearing & nurturing their child very nicely.With little earning in terms of money & more in terms of emotions!
Where is that WE FEELING?For whom, are we putting,our efforts?What type of NEW generation, is ought to be there?What will we do with money? Only,we can gather a crowd around ourselves,on which we can never rely.
Is Career,Academics & Economic achievements are above all Social living?
WAS THIS INDIAN CULTURE? A culture which has always amused & attracted the attention of WEST.. Why are we copying losers of west...?
Think aren’t we ourselves creating a world without emotions?
Are we not turning HUMAN INFANTS into an unemotional ROBOT with high output?
We have been best on emotional front & should be so for eras to come..!


  1. Shuchita, I could not hold back commenting to a later time. Fact of the matter is that it is so very true the next generation, including my own daughter, is continents apart with human senses, sensitivities and sensibilities. Though it can conveniently be called the ever favorite 'generation gap', there has never been a wide divergence or difference, disparity or a gap between ideals and actions between the generations. The era perhaps is different from our times. The thought process perhaps, rather is different from our times. The ambitions perhaps are slightly different from our times. But nothing is so widely gaping as it is made out to be except for the fact that it is our indulgence, rather, lack of indulgence that has brought about the vex between emotions then and now.

    The look west, ape west syndrome has so fiercely engulfed our society that they have conveniently forgotten their very past and embarked on to a cultural renaissance which, however much attempted, can not be achieved. Yet both, the parents on one side and children on the other, try incessantly to achieve this illusionary emancipation resulting in an inherent identity crisis.

    It is a fact that in today's elite & upper middle class, where it is more common, children adhere more towards their maids than their mothers. Father becomes a mere provider of funds and a confused infrequent visitor at parent/teacher school meetings. Seeds of snobbery in the children are developed right from Home to the elite public schools they are sent to. The absence of Parents when a child yearns for a tight hug from the mother or has an earnest or strong desire or craving to play with the father proves detrimental in their mental development resulting in rebellious character development. This especially is an area where the maids score profoundly more than the parents, the emotional front.

    The dilemma is fast creeping into our children such that the bonding of family, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins etc. is more of a liability that the relationship itself. They neither do understand the values nor the necessity of this bond, of course abetted by the Parents who are in fact supposed to inculcate them.

    Education has become the predominant factor linking the Parent and Child. Study, study, and study without a breather is the norm. There is no time for parenting except burdening the child with umpteen tuitions and compulsive innuendos to outperform other competitors. School/College has become a sort of business entity where every quarter competes against each other with hardly human emotions valued anywhere. Education has become so superficial and farcical that more than intent of imparting knowledge it is a huge hollow business conglomerate vying for excellence in an equally worthless sphere.

    Which leads us to think; did we, in our generation, do any bad? Aren't we successful in our very ways without sacrificing or loosing out on any of the hugs and kisses that was rightly ours from our parents? I remind my daughter to look up to us Parents and then evaluate whether we are a discredit to the vision of her generation. I direct her to realize the respect we command in our family circles and frequently point it out to her to capture its significance. Sadly, that is all we can do. During our times we could get belted and caned by both parents & teachers to drive in a point. That becomes human rights violation now.

    That is not to take away a wonderful subject you have raised and written with spontaneous clarity. I have written 'unedited', hence, pardon the mistakes too.

  2. Thanks for the valuable analysis of this article.. Uncle really,I may be a alien in my generation but still I daresay -This scenerio needs to be changed.. Family the basic school for child,It needs to have strong emotional bonds..Lot of education, wealth or any worldly pleasure can never compensate the emotional security that a mom /papa can give their child. Researches in areas of anthrpology n child psychology even in most progressive societies prove that FAMILY BONDING enhances personality n lack of it mostly results in deliquent behaviours. My words may not change modern parenting attitudes but atleast it will initiate a thought process..- Regards.